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Author Topic: It's your first time. How do you decide if you are going to take the plunge?  (Read 73 times)

Offline MelanieJolliet

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Sometimes I get a person who says they are completely new. And they don't know how to start the contact. So they may say too much. I have to admit I get uncomfortable for the person when they didn't have to open with so much personal information. And my response probably reflects that. I try not to let it show, but I probably do without knowing.

Have I scared them away? Have I not given enough guidance to make them keep communicating with me? Or is this just them dipping the toe in the water, like the first try, and they haven't been scared away but are just trying to get comfortable with the idea?

I have always wondered what it was like for someone to start this, their first time... I can't imagine.  :-\

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Offline leolistreviews

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Very good question!

I'm certain many have gone through this, I know personally I have and can count on one hand off the top of my head.

I believe this is a combination of 3 things.. a true newbie, someone who likes the role of being "a deer in the headlights" (almost a fetish) or if they have no told you prior to meeting you in person... you really have them nervous and don't know where to start.

The number one thing we can recommend is to judge body language and the way they speak/ask questions.

It is common to recommended starting off the session by welcoming them in, having a light conversation then go over restrictions and what their likes are. This is straight forward and leaves and open dialogue for them to open up. All that is left is for you to do is use your best judgment, based on previous sessions.

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Oops. I meant in an inquiry, not the meeting.
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Oh don't worry!

It can never can hurt to have more then one prospective (male or female) on a thought.

It obviously is time consuming when you get a text or phone call regarding a "first timer".. even if they are just pretending to be one.

If it was text I would ask for a phone call to discuss further, then ask a few simple questions to get a sense if they are serious or not. 
Many "first timers" just want the thrill of speaking to an SP with no intent of following through.
Some are generally curious.
Now you can hear a voice and use your judge of character vs a text.
Ask what made them decide today was the day to take the plunge?
How did they find your ad?

Also instead of spending too much time going over acronyms, ask them to pls Google them and get back to you.

If they did text and say they don't feel comfortable calling or have another reason to not to call, 100% we believe in saying for "first timers" we require a phone call to discuss further.

This will eliminate a lot of back and fourth, which most likely will completely waste your time.
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